International Women’s Day was observed recently (March 8) as a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marked a call to action for accelerating gender parity. The occasion may have gone but the issues remain relevant throughout the year.
The theme was this year’s International Women’s Day was balance for better. But, what exactly do we mean by balance for better?
The future is an exciting place to be in if we all get together to build a gender-balanced world where everyone has a part to play all the time, wherever they are. From the very base of grassroots activism to a broader worldwide action, we are in an exciting period of history where the world expects balance of every kind and at every place.
Today unfortunately we may notice its absence at some places but we all come together on this special day to celebrate its presence wherever we find it is and hope for a better balanced world for women in the future.
Balance drives a better working world to get better and it is not just a women’s life issue, it’s a business issue too. The race is on for gender-balanced boardrooms in the corporates, a gender-balanced political scenario and government, a gender-balanced media coverage, a gender-balance of employees in the private and government sector, more gender-balance in sports, wealth and at home among the siblings. Gender balance is essential for economies and communities to thrive and we come together on occasions like International Women’s Day to motivate others about shedding disparity and sharing more parity. We came together to create an awareness about a balance for a better world.
So my message to all the women out there is to do whatever you can to truly make a positive difference for women everywhere.
After thousands of years of oppression and suppression, women across the world today are occupying key posts and positions in all spheres of society. We can ask ourselves –why this meteoric rise of women in our times and where does this further lead the human society?
It is the mind set change in the women who want to work hard and make a name for themselves that is enabling them to acquire greater heights. The ever-evolving human desire develops in men and women alike. However over the past 60 years, we have witnessed a conspicuous change in women’s desire. Women besides being involved in household management and child care, are increasingly expanding their involvement in other areas of work and society. At the same time, the world is moving towards a greater sense of equality and women today assume roles and responsibilities previously only filled by men. Technology has also played a significant role in helpingwomen gain more free time. Therefore, women today manage to integrate themselves into the hyper-connected evolving world.
As the world becomes more globally interconnected and interdependent, it requires and demands the intervention of women, as though it were asking them to put forth their unique qualities of compassion, flexibility and adaptability into practice. It is seen that a woman’s character is much more responsible, stable and consistent. She is capable of absorbing many changes and coping with long-term challenges?—?a quality that comes from her natural ability of procreation and developing life within her.
A woman is capable of multitasking easily, of holding onto a large number of tasks as well as carrying them out successfully. A man, on the other hand, is more successful in a linear process.
Men and women are also different in their attitude towards life. Figuratively speaking, a man is physically stronger and is said to be as strong as iron?.The woman is more compassionate, flexible and resilient. The mutual completion of each other’s strengths and qualities is the key to building a healthy bonding and a healthy society in the new era.
The integration of women in the leadership of society and other systems of human life is becoming inevitable and necessary. The maternal qualities she possesses are expanding from the confines of her personal home to the global home.
Women are the foundation of a family. Happiness and wellness in or of a family is directly dependent on the mother’s nature and attitude. A happy mother is a happy parent capable of happy parenting. She will have happy children subsequently around her. And a stressed mother will have stressed children. This is a bitter pill which we have to swallow and wake up to being happy parents first.
The meals/ meal times in the family –for the various family members is an important part of a woman’s agenda. She is thus the nurturer of the family. Now she earns as well.
A family is the unit of any society. The lady of the house is the back bone of her family. Happy families form a happy society. Societies form nations and nations form the world. You can decide for yourself how important women are for the foundation of a happy world. William Shakespeare said about women, “The world would be imperfect without the presence of the woman.” Intelligently Shakespeare also said, “You cannot be a couple if one partner has to carry on their shoulders the other” It would be better if we were walking side by side with respect and love. It could be a long walk together if you use respect, esteem and love for each other.
I want to tell all women out there–it’s okay not to be a superwoman, all the time. You cannot aim for perfection when you have to juggle so many tasks —family, children, self, work and much more.
In the quest to become the perfect wife and perfect mother in our homes and a perfect employee in our workplaces, we are statistically, burning ourselves out. We are destroying our mental and physical health when we ignore the warning signs of burn out we have.
A recent survey by Bauer Media found that 74 per cent of mothers say their stress levels have increased since starting a family while one in three say they are constantly tired. The pressures of keeping up with the kids, housework and career appear to be taking a toll. Women should often repeat to themselves-“While I still believe that I can have it all, I’ve come to the realisation that it just may not be all at once.” We have to keep our priorities right at different stages of our life and let go of some duties while performing the important ones sincerely.
Despite the progress, women still bear heavier loads of duty than men in balancing work and family. One reason why women often complain that it’s harder to get ahead in the workplace is because many of them are much more likely than the men to experience a variety of family-related career interruptions.
It has been seen that when a woman focuses on herself trying to be stress free and happy, she creates an ambience of happiness around herand her family automatically becomes a happy family.When she travels to work from a the ambience of a happy family environment –then without a doubt she will be satisfied at her workplace and her work will be done well.
Women should also prioritise their own happiness and wellbeing. They should improve their self esteem, emotional quotient, resilience, learn to accept others, be flexible, adaptable, assertive and communicate well.
Women should not fall into the trap of the conditioning of a society that wants women adhering to the idea that the society/media has made for them. It is a situation of great confusion for women to differentiate between who they actually are and what society wants from them.
So, my advice to the women is- have high self esteem, love yourself as you are and be yourself. Say no to any kind of discrimination or abuse.
The woman’s role is to maintain her good mental and physical health with consciousness, the unity and the peace in the family, bringing up children with awareness and working out with flexibility as much as the time factor can allow in a way that is comfortable for you and your family. And, my message for men is preserve the life of humankind, be happy in your job and enable the woman to perform her duties. Respect, support and protect her, do not subdue or take the joy of being a woman away from her.
Be polite kind and empathetic to your partner’s needs and desires. To respect the mother who gives life, is to respect life itself.
(The author is a neuro psychologist and CBSE designated counsellor)
Monday, 11 March 2019 | Dr Sona Kaushal Gupta | Dehradun
Author: Sona Kaushal
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